So now there are 5 teenagers in my house. SIX if you count the boyfriend of the oldest daughter who is here more often than not. My son’s best BROpal is visiting from TN and staying with us in the room over the garage. That room once belonged to college boy, then youngest took it over. Now college boy sleeps on the couch in that room and BROpal is on a mattress on the floor. You don’t even want to know what 15 + 15 + 19 smells like.
Parenting teens is a challenge, to say the least, but successfully and gracefully parenting “adults” that still live at home is entirely another category of giftedness that I have yet to stumble upon. One minute they are scattered to the wind eating who knows what at who knows when. We do make it a practice to know WHERE they are so that is somewhat consoling. The next minute they are all ALL underfoot, boisterous with friends over and it’s after 10pm. On a weeknight. And they are hungry. Or thirsty. Or bored. It is just a new and perilous realm to be transitioning from Cruise Director to Spectator in their lives. We find ourselves letting go of many of our daily parental duties and decisions, but still holding responsibility for their well-being and safety, no matter how hard they try to thwart us.
In Whitney’s graduation “crowning” ceremony her dad and I made the following statement:
The choices we have made for you as you grew up we now release to you. The choices you make from this point forward will continue to create the person you choose to become. You can always count on us to love you unconditionally, no matter what choices you make. We are proud of you.
Granted, choices like not making that appointment, or not putting clothes in the dryer, or rolling the windows up on your car when rain is predicted are going to get a nudge towards completion, but they are their choices. The resulting consequences are also theirs to own and cherish.
I am realizing that it takes an intentionality to enjoy parenting at every stage. Even this “last” official one where they believe they are full-fledged adults, but the rest of us know better. It is all at once motivating to get them out of the nest and nostalgic as we look back and realize our family is changing at a rapid pace. In the grand scheme, family doesn’t shrink, it grows. I am excited to have made it this far in motherhood and I look towards the future with excitement and anticipation as I continue to dream about my grown children and how they will improve their world.
Now go pick up those socks.
Excitement built with my two teens as cars of all shapes, sizes and colors sporting their proud pink mustaches began approaching. Drivers from Washington, D.C., Baltimore, MD and Hampton Roads, VA met up near King’s Dominion Theme Park in Doswell, VA on Wednesday, June 18. What started as a “what if” thread on our NE Driver page, with some help by our awesome Social Event Coordinators became an epic day of memories for 30+ Lyft Drivers.
One by one, families, carpools and single drivers hopped out in the nearby parking lot, offering smiles & fist bumps to friends, old and new. Lyft Mom Maggie (DC) approached the group with gusto inviting anyone and everyone to “get their ass a shirt” from the back of her Lyftmobile. Adrian and Amanda (VB) were thrilled to replenish their supply after the creative transformation of their previous Lyft shirts into tank tops.
Brandon (DC) took several photos of all the mingling. After wishing John (MD) a happy birthday we were off to the park. It was decided we would all meet inside the park at the Eiffel Tower in a few hours for a group shot. Families and groups formed as drivers dedicated themselves to mixing and meeting drivers from other cities besides their own. It was delightful bumping into other cheerful Lyfters throughout the park and seeing random groups in line, at the wave pool or cooling off in a restaurant. There was plenty of opportunity to spread the Lyft Love when other people asked about our shirts, our ‘staches, and our happy demeanor in such heat!
The 97 degree temps didn’t slow us down for a minute. There was sweat and sunscreen and scrambling for shade, but the smiles never faded. At our in-park meetup, our group had grown even more so we took more selfies in the shade as well as the big group shot.
Advice was given about the Dominator and the Intimidator, encouragement distributed to ride the Volcano and the Flight of Fear and it was assumed that all would eventually spend time in Water Works. As we compared notes on rides instead of riders we enjoyed yet another thrill of being a Lyft Driver. Our Northeast region got a little smaller that day. As they say at King’s Dominion, RIDE ON!
**Thanks for the great photos, Brandon! Tweet him! **
Now there are 4 (count em) F.O.U.R. adults living under this roof.
Wes came home from Davis & Elkins in mid-May and got right to work at Ocean Breeze. That’s exactly when things started ramping up for my Class of 2014 Kellam High School graduate, Whitney. First came prom:
Then came yearbooks, yard signs and yellow stoles & tassels:
As I prepared for the influx of family, cleaning house and prepping for the party, we experienced the highs and lows of internet ideas:
Martha Stewart said that frozen water balloons would be more colorful & festive than a bag of ice.
I couldn’t disagree more.
Pinterest promised an exhilarating celebratory entryway:
But it wasn’t raining in that picture.
But once family arrived and stage was walked and party commenced, there was nothing but laughter, fun and celebration together.
We are so proud of you, Whitney!