My close personal friend Jon Acuff (who is a dude) has invented a Pinterest board entitled PIV.
It has things like this on it:
Yesterday in the Start Experiment, our task was to “ignore the haters.” I wasn’t sure I had one.
Until I did. At 7:09 am.
That hater was HARD to ignore.
That hater thought I had done them wrong.
And in that person’s perspective I had.
It was difficult to correct by ignoring, but it was empowering to not be sucked into battle or manipulation.
As the day went on, I spoke to others who were experts at ignoring their haters…many of whom were in their own families.
By day’s end, I had a thought. What if I am someone else’s hater? Intentionally or not?
I made a “joking” comment to someone earlier in the day. I may be someone’s hater.
I said something that wasn’t uplifting, but pointed out an obvious flaw in a non-constructive way. I may be someone’s hater.
I got frustrated with the person who was frustrated with me. I may be someone’s hater.
I don’t want to be anyone’s hater.
So the only antidote I could think of was to encourage. Sincerely and from the heart.
I thought about what I wished my hater had said to me instead of the yuck.
I listened to what other people’s haters had said to them and had stuck.
And I said the opposite to people. It was fun. I could put that energy of “fixing” to use in a completely different direction rather than the downward spiral brought on by the hater. Like a wind-up toy that just gets picked up and pointed in a different direction.
Maybe “ignoring” can be inspiration to act in a different direction. How did you ignore YOUR hater?